Come play with me….

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Here’s a stellar video from my instructor, Steve Bearman from Interchange Counseling Institute on Finite versus Infinite Coaching (and living!)   Here Steve shines a light on holistic facilitation; seeing our lives as whole entities, playing the infinite “game” of life  rather then simply existing to check off tasks from endless lists of goals.  He claims, and I agree, this can be a vicious cycle of “do, do, do” with no real context for a delightful life.

Our desire to find purpose and meaning in life and to contribute to something larger then ourselves requires a super vision of our journey, with an examination of why we “do” what we “do”. It’s possible our ambitions really have no significance after all, which would explain the emptiness and confusion.

Sit next to yourself and see your life as an odyssey with triumphs and fiascos as in any great novel where the heroine/hero makes mistakes and picks her/him self back up and continues on…. and notice that your heart will begin to pound again with excitement, for your life is for the living. Join us.

 

 

 

In the Beginning…

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Kathy Ireland stands with arms folded on the February ’12 cover of Forbes Magazine with the title, Super Model, Super Mogul. She was a Sports Illustrated model in the ’90′s who’s built herself an empire from the Home Solutions industry.

I look at her and think not so much of how much we differ now, but from how differently our beginnings were.

I have not read her autobiography, but I can imagine her as a teen reading an announcement for a modeling casting call, asking her parents to take her to it, getting head shots made, finding an agent, having an advisor read contracts, and a community of people launch her off into a career that she successfully strides into fame and fortune.

It’s that nugget, the community, that all acorns require to grow to a mighty oaks which include soil full of nutrients, water and the sun. All these elements in the right combination, and ta-da… success.

But what happens when you don’t have those elements, as is the case in most peoples adolescent experience? Does your tree only grow to half it’s height? Or only sprout slightly out of the ground? Or not at all?

And what happens when despite complete lack of tending, a person grows into giant Redwood anyway? What was in their inner soil? How did they become who they become? How do the point to their North Star and go?

My theory is that some where, some one came along and watered them.

I set the hypothesis that people need:

1. Supportive Family or some other person(s) of influence.

2. Just the right amount of education

3. Time and space to be curious

4. And a wee bit of money

to be able to get going.

But beyond that… if you don’t have these things…what do successful people pull organically from themselves? and where did they get that nutrient?

These are my questions… this is my quest.

How do people become successful from nothing?

 

Success by any other name…

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So, let’s take a poll…

What do you define success as? Choose one of my options or come up with your own…

  • Making money?
  • Being happy with everything?
  • Enlightenment?
  • Long standing relationship?
  • Contented Children?
  • Meaningful work?
  • Impossible to say because success is an illusion?

Now… once you’ve done this… go back in your life and think where you got that meme from and consider explaining your choice here.

For myself, I’m currently defining success as being able to buy my own home with some land around it and space for kids and dogs to run and having the money to maintain it and sustain it decently.

When I search my past for why being a homeowner is important, I can’t find the first imprint in my mind when that reality became important, but I do know it’s a mass media effort to instill homeownership as a priority and it has been since after WW1.

Homeowners with mortgages don’t protest as much, apparently.

For myself, however, it’s a desire to be Queen Bee of my own hive…. and this whole blog and everything… it’s all about creating my hive, tribe might be a better word.

So, what about you?